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Ack!!!

Ok, dating rule #38:

In any given relationship, the dumper shall wait until the dumpee indicates that they feel like striking up a friendship before initiating friendly contact. Until then contact should be avoided whenever possible. If contact must be made it should be made with the realization that the dumpee probably HATES the dumper (unless they indicate otherwise).

Damn it. I Heard from the ex today. Apparently 2 months was supposed to be enough time for me to feel all better about the whole cheating on me and dumping me thing. She even had the nerve to act surprised/hurt that I was still not feeling particularly chatty with her.

Grrrr....

(no, I didn't back down from being grumpy at her, but it annoyed me more that I had to deal with her being upset at me for something so stupid)

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That is seriously messed up! Poo on her. Hug for you. :)
Thanks. I needed that :)
As you know I was right there 'with' ya today, ugh. I can totally relate in a semi-related yet non-related way. But you know exactly what I mean.

*hugs*

Lol, yup, makes perfect sense.

Thanks, that was very much appreciated.
ugh. *grumble* stupid fucking people. i'm sorry that you're having to deal with that kind of thing. *hug*
Thanks. I think she got the hint this time around. Eh, at least I have friends like you to whine at and get the occasional hug from.

It means a lot ot me.
*smile* no problem. you catch plenty of my venting, yourself.

*big hug*
It's because women love control and attention. You were supposed to fawn over her and tell you how much you missed her... DUH!

(p.s. please note the sarcasm!)
LOL!

Ooooooooooooooooooooh.....










Noooooooooooooo!!!!
Hell, there's a person who still won't talk to me 3 years later, and I didn't cheat on him (I was completely tactless tho). I do send him an e-mail on a yearly basis to see if he wants to start talking to me again (cause I like him and all), but I'm not offended when I get no reply. She has yet to figure out that you're not gonna let her off the hook, she needs to deal with her guilt all by her little lonesome.

*scritch* I suggest you take Audrey out for a spin and forget the whole conversation. She ain't worth the headspace, dude.
Yeah. It's hard to know how to "get over" stuff like that. Sometimes being a friend makes perfect sense, sometimes it just feels weird/uncomfortable.

I know a few people who aren't speaking to me based on stupid behaviour on my part when we were dating. I suppose it's easier to not take offense when you own up to your role in things not working out.

I think she's still trying to play that "Well yeah I feel terrible that you feel upset about what happened. I didn't mean to hurt you/do it and you should forgive me now so I can stop feeling terrible, and since you aren't forgiving me now, I'm getting annoyed at you because you really should forgive me already" card.

Thanks for the advice. I did actually end up doing that and it did in fact help.
In any given relationship, the dumper shall wait until the dumpee indicates that they feel like striking up a friendship before initiating friendly contact. Until then contact should be avoided whenever possible.

Rule 39: if the dumpee DOES contact the dumper the dumper should not ignore the contact and pretend to still be following rule 38.

not that this relates to your situation... I'm just still pissed at Brian for the whole "I thought you didn't want to hear from me". Um, yeah, that would explain why I sent you email ASKING YOU QUESTIONS! Those were not rhetorical questions! "Oh. Uh. I forgot about that."

anyway, sorry your ex is also being a dumbass. what is it with dumbass exes these days?
what is it with dumbass exes these days?

Heh, after the shit hit the fan in this particular situation a friend asked me why I always seemed to end up with people who did stuff like that to me.

I seem to have an innate ability to find and date people who will find new and interesting ways (and sometimes old and proven ways) to stomp on my feelings and then not understand why I get mad at them.

I'm still trying to figure out what to do about that observation (which is disturbingly accurate).

I don't blame you for still being mad at Brian. That whole mess definitely takes "bad way to break-up and deal with things afterwards" to a whole new level. He single handedly raised the bar on being a putz.